Are you a listener, friend? And I don’t mean a listener in a conversation, but a listener to your good old self? I’ve recently picked up Yoga more seriously and learned (the hard way, you know the way with tears and sobbing) that I am not. Not YET at least, so for this year I want a little more and I want a little less:
A little more patience/A little less self-judgement
A little more deep breaths/A little less haste
A little more action/A little (okay a LOT) less procrastination
A little more gratitude/A little less negativity
A little more peace/A little less drama
A little more honesty/A little less doubts
A little more simplicity/A little less clutter
A little more experiences/A little less stuff
A little more hugs/A little less frustration
Of course more kindness, compassion and focussing on building stronger relationships.
But most importantly
A little more listening/A little less pushing
I ended the year in a state of total overwhelmed-ness (is that even a word?). I felt socially and mentally overwhelmed plus very physically depleted. 2016 was a year of a lot of movement and changes. I learned SO much and though most things were definitely for the better, I realize now that I pushed myself too much. Pushing yourself is a great way of achieving your goals and getting things done. However, if you’re not taking recharging moments and listening to your body, and your mind, it can be such a dangerous thing. Some of us, me included, have become so good at ignoring signs from our body and mind because “its not the right time to deal with this right now, I just need to push through”. And though in certain situations this can be useful, at some point after ignoring them too many times we might loose sight of these signs. And then, when it is too late and you have pushed too hard, for too long, you simply can not go around it anymore. So if you recognize this, an important point for you this year might be to focus on listening better. Listening to how your body feels, what it needs and to the thoughts that run through your head. Consciously paying attention to our thoughts and redirecting them, has such a big effect on how we speak, how we feel and how we treat others. So that is what I am really trying to focus on this year, even more so than on any other resolution; to listen.
I realize that “listening” sounds super vague when you’re not talking about music or a conversation. But I hope you find it in you to challenge yourself and ask some questions, its really all you need to start. So while you’re sitting there right now, ask yourself how you feel. Thinking about it in a physical form is usually easiest to start with. Are you tense? tired? comfortable? Then try to figure out why and how you can either change it if its negative and if you are feeling awesome, take a moment to really embrace that and enjoy it! WOOHOO! The same goes for your mind really, are you feeling overwhelmed? indecisive? frustrated? Make a point of acknowledging it and then figure out the why and think of baby steps to a solution. The first thing to change anything is to be aware of it and sometimes that can be the hardest part. I am by no means an expert, but I just wanted to share what I am personally working on hoping that in some way it might help you too.
Here’s to a year of listening and awareness, oh yeah, am I a yogi yet? haha ;) I would love to hear your thoughts on this guys, we can all learn from each other’s experiences so lets chat about it in the comments section below!